Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Addendum of nothingness

Ground hog day... mulligan... snakes and ladders... Call it what you will or title it something fun to make the fact that it's been a year since my homestudy was completed and I really felt like things were getting going in the adoption department... yet today... there has been no movement at all. I am at exactly the same place as I was a year ago. I sat with my social worker today to update my home study. I don't think she found it amusing when I told her that the only things that have changed in the past year is that Chuck is gone, I've planted a tree on my lawn and planted 150 bulbs in my garden but that I didn't think the Russians would find that noteworthy. My agency is re-doing my dossier to submit to Khabarovsk and told me that it will take 8 -10 weeks before it will be ready for submission. I'm waiting on clarification on exactly why it takes that long... my home study is already translated so that shouldn't take up time... they notarize my documents in house in a day... and then send things to be legalized etc. at the Russian embassy. Whatever. The net net is that with waiting for my addendum of nothingness will be sent out by the end of next week to the provincial government and await rubber stamping that what made me a fit applicant last year still stands for this year (probably another week) and then my agency can start putting together my new dossier (which they are charging me 2K to do)... So, with any luck, I MIGHT be registered in Khab by the middle of September. BUT... the good news is that the facilitators say that referrals are coming most often in a few months from registration... uh huh... I'd like some clarification on that to know just where that data comes from AND the fact remains that, from the middle of September "a few months" means I won't be traveling until 2010 to meet my little guy... with the Christmas shut down it will likely be February... Khab is known for difficult paperwork process with the judge and that it takes 2 -3 months for a court date... SOOOOO with that math, it looks like best case scenerio I could be home with my son next June... Wow... so much for Merry Christmas or Happy Easter... nice... but I guess it's better to know. The million dollar question is: when do you tie a knot in the end of the rope and hang on and when do you let go and grab onto a new rope???
In other news, 2 single gals brought home their children this week. I've shared their journeys to their families and am thrilled for them both and their new son and daughter! Congrats Iradia and Silvana and their babes Valeria Sophia and Aleksander!!! Welcome home!!!


Iraida said...

Ohhhh Stacey! Your post brings tears to my eyes... no only because I feel your frustration, but because i've been a little overwhelmed with my little one and adjusting to the new routine that I haven't fully realized how LUCKY I am to have her in my life. I'm sure that wasn't your intention, but rest assure that your words helped me today. I really hope things speed up for you.

Amy said...

Thinking of you -- hoping for news soon!!

Jojo, Julz, Jules said...

Who is your agency again?? It shouldn't be that long! I am hoping that there is a little boy out in Komsomolsk for you. That is an overnight train ride away from Khabarovsk and where my little one is from. They take lovely care of the children. Not much happens over the summer in Khabarovsk with the courts, so it is good timing to get your papers there now, referral in August, travel in September, court in November!! THere, I figured it all out for you! BEST OF LUCK and you are making progress..You just can't feel it!

Jojo, Julz, Jules said...

Oh and I added you to my blog roll!! Feel free to add mine, I will be visiting Khabarovsk NEXT summer and should have some photos from my original trips soon!

Jojo, Julz, Jules said...

July 11th
I can't seem to post on the Khabarovsk Yahoo board, just wanted to see if you docs were registered yet??
It's been close to a month so it should be almost there..I am thinking about you, and hope that you hear something soon!