Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Bah Humbug

So, would you like the good news or the bad news first? Well - you don't REALLY get to vote so, let's start with the good news. There have been 2 referrals for families in Khab. Actually, let me re-phrase that - for one family REGISTERED in Khab and another who were registered in another region and brought in for a referral of an infant girl. On the surface, it shouldn't matter that the family was pulled in from another region (no one in Khab was waiting for an infant girl) but in the end, it does affect me - which leads to the bad news. I spoke to the program assistant today at my agency and she told me that, "we will not be doing any new referrals until court is granted for the families who already have accepted matches". Now given those of you who have contacted me with info on Khab, my understanding is that time from 1st to 2nd trip is pretty standardly 4 months... which means that even if they allow a match after getting only one court date, that will already be into 2010. I spent the afternoon mulling this over and working my way through the reality of Christmas with months potentially still to wait. It's been a teary afternoon 'round here. I'm all out of ideas on how to manage the wait. I'd love to take a big beach vacation with all inclusive umbrella drinks (and lots of them) but I don't have anyone to go with... Someone suggested that perhaps changing my age range to 24 - 48 years might help. I guess then I might have someone to go on vacation with.
Bah humbug.


Pollock Family said...

Hi, is your agency CHI??,
they did to us same thing for 28 months of waiting for our child, they had any excuse in book and more , we switched agency and got home in 3 months with healthy baby girl... we refused to change geneder or age...
you can read all on my blog..

gayle said...

You might want to try European Adoption Consultants. I have adopted 2 sons from Russia as a single mom. Check out our blog.

Carolynn and Steve said...

Oh Stacy,

This part is just HARD! I have been there, and know that you just get tired of not knowing anything. A BIG hug from here--and prayers that things will work the way they need to work and SOON!

Anonymous said...

A Merrytimers hug for you, my little West Coast friend. Hang in'll be worth the wait.


amy and kevin said...

Hi Stacey~
Hang in there - I have no advice on how to survive the wait as we are waiting as well, and are going crazy. But you are not alone! We are in a different region but were told we probably wouldn't be getting another referral this year either. This year we declined a referral and just lost our second referral. I keep telling myself that these will be the last holidays without a child (that had better be true!) I pray you get the call as soon as possible.

Dennis & Nicole said...

hang in there stacy!!! your time will come when you least expect it! try to stay positive and we will keep thinking about you! let me know if you need to talk :)